Living and loving in Utopia….

I already know that I am a queen.  I love saying that word about myself. I hope all women feel that way about themselves because as the saying goes… “we are the life givers”! So we should know that we are all royal.

So with all that being said, I think from now on I’m going to be all about making sure my emotional state is completely taken care of by me. This is the year of me. I’ve proven how much I am capable of loving others and putting others ahead of me. I will never regret that nor will I stop doing that. I will be more careful in the future but I realize that that’s part of who I am. Though for now, it’s about making me happy. Now I won’t be doing it in a way that will put others down because that’s not very queenly, that’s not very womanly and all woman should be able to love themselves without putting others down.

So let me an example and if you see me acting like anything other than a Queen, please let me know!

Peace and Love,

Deidre

Matthew 21:22

If you have faith when you pray, you will be given whatever you ask for.

If you’ve ever read my blog before you know that I truly believe in a higher power with all my heart. It’s something that will never waiver because there has been so many situations that I can’t even begin to explain how they worked out or how everything ended up okay.

So when last week the lottery was up to $1.65 Billion!! That is so much money that I couldn’t even imagine how I would or could spend it because I wouldn’t even know where to start. Like I’m quite sure a lot of people did people prayed that they would win that money.  Although yes I bought a ticket I didn’t pray about it, I wouldn’t have had real faith in that prayer.

So my husband and I have had this conversation a lot of times about what we do if we ever had all the money we could dream of… I’m quite sure lots of couples have had this conversation.  I want to encourage everyone to do this because your thoughts have a way of manifesting themselves. 

I bring this up in my blog because my cousin asked me the other day have I ever read the book “The Magic”  by Rhonda Byrne, and I confused to him that although I have the book I haven’t read it.  I do the premise of the books is that in 28 days you can focus your thoughts and change your life. Now do I completely believe that the power of thought can help me achieve all my dreams and goals? Somewhat, but I also believe that you also need the power of prayer to go along with it.

I am a naturally anxiety filled, high strung person. So I absolutely dislike when things don’t go my way. So I always have to ask myself when you thought that thought did your really believe it? Did you really see it happening? Did you ever doubt it?  I check myself often because I realize I’ve become comfortable in letting the “universe” dictate everything that happens.  Now please don’t confuse the universe and God, these are two separate things to me. I believe God comes into play when we allow him to and when we don’t we are at the mercy of the universe.

So I just want everyone to realize how important these things are as we go into the new year. There are so many things I wish to accomplish, change, and do but I know I’m going to need some help in some areas because I am not perfect. 

My husband believes so much in the power of positive thinking that he tells me all the time that we will have financial freedom one day, and get this he doesn’t want it handed to him. He maintains that it will be through his hard work that we get to where we have been praying to get.

So please remember think it, dream it, and pray about it. The Power of prayer and the power of thought together will make you an unstoppable force.

Peace and Love,

Deidre

This time of year for me my life takes on a life of itself. It never fells I always get sick (pneumonia again) and the stresses of being a business owner also come up. As I’m sitting here trying to get my first blog post of the year in, and cuddle up with my husband,  I ran across video a friend of mine had put up on Facebook.

My father always taught me that the best way to get a different result is to do something different, and this is what Mr. Harvey was speaking on. Sometimes we do have to jump in order to actually jump start the greatness in all of us. I’m going to challenge all of my friends this year to do something that jump starts a passion in them. Each and every one of us has something unique and special about us. Let’s explore that. Let’s become the best person that we can be. I’m taking this message to heart. Once my energy level is back up I’m going to start checking things off of my list because I know nothing is off limits to me. So don’t let it be to you. So go and jump start that greatness in you today!

Peace and Love,
Deidre

I know that this title makes me sound very conceited but it was. This year is coming to an end very fast and like I do every year, I like to sit back and think of all the lessons learned and everything that made me grow as a person.

I came into 2015 shaky.  There was so much that I was sure about but I pressed on with life. I basically just lived and you know what? Everything turned out okay.

There were so things I had to come to terms with which I have written about before, (having a baby and then having another myomectomy), but nothing took me out the game! I overcame fights with depression and everything without being pumped full of medication, these may have been small victories but they were still wins.

So when I look back at the year, I say it was about me. It was about me getting to know myself better, which is the most important thing a person can do in life. When you know who you are it is a feeling of empowerment because it’s easier to figure out things in life.

I now know how to let things go, and I understand better when my husband tells me to stop stressing so much.  Understanding myself has led to an amazing marriage! I feel so grown up, so in control (Janet Jackson was on point with being in control) and such a feeling of having my feet planted firmly on the ground.

My belief in a higher power is even greater. Its like He has let me bump my head long enough and since I know better now I can “hear” better.

There are so many things that I can’t quite put into words to get you understand how 2015 being about me was such a pivotal point in life. I recommend everybody to learn themselves.  It’s the best thing you can do for you and everyone around you. My father always said, “Stand for something or fall for anything.” You can’t stand for something if you don’t know what you stand for.

So I see 2016 being even better, a greater year because thats something else 2015 taught me. Things go up, things come down and then things go up again. Life is a cycle, you won’t always be on top and you won’t always be on bottom. All you have to do is live life to the fullest and things will be okay, even when they seem like they won’t because it is the circle of life.

So don’t do the cliche of making resolutions just live in 2016 because whatever it is you can do it, it will happen (if it’s for you) and life will be good. Even though there will be times where it seems bad it will still be good (another lesson I learned everything has a purpose).

So live life because it is such a beautiful thing.

Peace and Love,

Deidre

So I am suppose to be knee deep in Physical Science homework but I swear my mind is not on it.  It’s boring and wish I could blink my eyes and it just go away….

But anyway, I posted a very serious question on Facebook and I got no answer so I’m guessing no one else knows the answer either… (so sad).

Every year during the Christmas Holidays, the Salvation Army brings out those red kettles in front of Wal-Mart.. a place I go at least 4-5 times a week. I am one of those bleeding heart people that feel like the scum of the Earth when I don’t put anything in those kettles, but if I go that many times a week when is enough, enough?

I think about this every year because I believe in giving back to the less fortunate.  I give small toys to toy drives, I do anything I can to bring a small to those who may not be able to do it because I never know if or when I’ll ever be in that situation and I would want someone to help me.

But again I ask with these kettles that I pass by so often when do I say, “Hey I’ve done what I can and there is no reason to go broke so you won’t look bad in front of these people ringing this bell”. Before everyone starts I know that you give from the heart… obviously I have one because I feel bad because I want to give everytime.

I found a great article on this, which I had to search for so now I feel a bit better and I want to share just in case anyone else is having trouble with those damn RED KETTLES!!

Peace and Love,

Deidre

https://squirrelshateme.wordpress.com/2014/12/05/salvation-army-donation-etiquette/

 

The Holiday Season is upon us…. hopefully everyone got through Thanksgiving intact.

Why is it that the Holidays have started (probably always) brings out the worst in families?  Fights, who brought whom to dinner, exes, and things of the past all come up. I can say I have/am guilty of this. I can hold a grudge like no other (I get it from my daddy) but I was brought up better so I know this attitude is incorrect.

The FAMILY is already under attack.  We don’t support each other like we used to or really connect like a family should anymore. It hurts, and I’m not speaking of myself but as a whole because the way we treat our families and the way the family as whole is treated eventually seeps into our communities.  We hear it all the time, it starts at home. #trueststatementofalltime!

Starting at home teaches us how to resolve conflict, how to interact with others, and so many other things that are needed to handle things in the real world.  I mean some of my greatest lessons were taught to me by my parents and maybe at the time I didn’t understand but now I do.

I beef a lot with my youngest brother, but I love him dearly. In fact I was the only person who could understand anything he was saying when he was younger because he heard so much German when he was born but we spoke English around the house… his language skills were mixed but somehow I was the one who could decipher what he was trying to say, yet now he drives me insane sometimes! But he’s family. Always has been and always will be. I can pick apart the bad times but it’s the good memories that I hold near and dear.(and always will) but for goodness sake it’s the Holidays!

If you are alive, have your health, food in your mouth, and a roof over your head. You are blessed and this is the season for blessings. The root of all of this is family. Now I’m talking about very petty problems. I understand when there is some deep rooted issues that need to be resolved in that case don’t ruin your Holidays deal with it after, but if you don’t then embrace this special time of the year when we see miracles happen and we see how much love there really is in the world.

When you know you are loved (which is suppose to start with family), you have no problem showing it to others, showing kindness to strangers and knowing that you can be a blessing in other peoples lives.  This is why FAMILY is very important.

So Tis the Season to love, to show forgiveness, and to put away petty problems.

Maybe if we learn to love in the inside of our home, we will have no problem showing it on the outside of our homes.

Colossians 3:14 “But above all these things put on love, which is the bond of perfection.”

Peace and Love,

Deidre

 

Okay so tonight/today is going to be two posts. I think this will happen like this because I like to talk a lot and I am behind on so many topics!!

Okay so while I should be asleep I am up watching “She-Ra” on Hulu… at the end of this particular episode there is a PSA about bullying.  This episode was from 1985. In the my mind I was like wow they had this same problem 20 years ago that we have today! But then I remember something my father always reminds me about. Everything that once was will come again.

So bullying was a huge thing once upon a time… calmed down for a while and now it is back to the forefront once again.  Things are even worse this time around (In my opinion).  So did we learn anything the first time around? No not really or else the problem wouldn’t be so bad.  You wouldn’t have kids as young as 8 attempting suicide or actually doing it.

We have never actually learned anything from the past (and when I say we I mean America as a whole).  Do you know the last time we refused refugees access to our country they were sent back to their own country and killed? WWII, we denied the Jewish into this country and they were sent back and killed by the Nazis…. pretty messed up right?

We are a country made up of immigrants, and refugees.  Unless you are a full blooded Native American then you trace your roots back to somewhere else and not the United States.

So with that in mind isn’t it important to look at the things from our past and use them to make a better future?  If you took a left down a street yesterday and there were nails in the road, wouldn’t you take a right instead of going down that same road today?  I’m all about protecting ourselves and doing what is right for our country but what is right? We don’t want to put the people already here at risk but who says that if we let refugees in that they will be trouble? There is no way to prove that, but what can be proven is if we don’t then we have sentenced these people to a certain death.

Get more interested in the world around you. Stay on top of current events.  These matters will and can affect you somewhere down the road.

I lived in Germany when the Berlin wall came down.  There was also a lot anti-American talk going on which had gotten so bad that we had military police escorts to school. I know what it’s like to live in fear that someone will try and kill you just because there is a different between you and them.  My parents although the told us to always have a watchful I but, we never stopped living.  We still enjoyed living in a different country.   We didn’t let fear stop us. So we can’t let fear stop us from helping others in need.  Wouldn’t we want them to do the same for us?  The United States is suppose to be a super power, so let us show the world what a super power is. I do agree with the Republicans when they say we should lead from the front and not the back.

Isn’t that way everyone wants to come to the United States anyway? We do have it going on!

Peace and Love,

Deidre

I haven’t been posting like I should even though it’s something that I really enjoy regardless of what type  of feedback I get or if anyone is evening reading my post.

Today I was given some encouragement and I think I’m going to be smart and take it because as I’ve said before you never know when the words you speak or the stories you tell will encourage or help someone.

So this year is just about over with and I’m already leaving it behind me.  I’m going to take the lessons that I’ve learned in 2015 and learn from them but I won’t dwell on any mistakes that I have made.  Next year I will 35! I’m not dwelling on that number but I’m going to celebrate everything that I have been through and all the lessons that I have learned.  Life could be so much worse so I am truly blessed beyond my wildest dreams.

When I was younger I had an idea of where I would be at this age, and it’s no where near where I actually am. I mean that in a good way.  I had babies and this happy June Cleaver life on the brain.  Let me tell you life is nothing like you see on TV.  You never got to see the struggle to get to the good times, which is what we all need. You can’t enjoy the good without the bad, in the words of Betty Wright “No Pain, No Gain.”

So for 2016 I’m going to live with no regrets, only lessons learned, I’m going to live like each day may be my last.  I want to love like I may never be able to give love again. I want to do everything to the best of my abilities, with a smile.  Knowing that I am bringing joy to the Lord because He said to live everyday like that.  We can complain all we want to but what does that give us? A sore throat and more things to complain about.

So I’m going to be strong in life and take pride in all of lifes blessings, whether those blessings are teaching a lesson or giving joy. Celebrate life, love life. Things are going to be okay.

Peace and Love,

Deidre

Okay as I’m writing this I know only a few read my blog post.  If there was going to be read it would and should be this one.   I think I am the one person who is asking “what was the person doing for this situation to happen”? I’m not saying that all these people should have been killed but be honest did they or did they not put themselves in that position? It’s illegal to sell loss cigarettes (crime) If and officer tells you to stop and you run (crime) We all now talking about Sandra Bland but did she run her mouth while she was being arrested? Weren’t we all taught to keep our mouth shuts, yes this is America and we should be able to what we want but every race knows that is just simply not true.  Now for those of you that know me call  me white girl and everything else so I’ll take that but I know how things can be.

Story time: In 2005 or 2006 I was driving my brother back to his AIT base in Fort Gordon, GA.  We were running late and we were speeding he wasn’t even suppose to have left the base and we were coming all the way back from Prattville, Alabama. So like many people do they find a car going fast and get behind it, which is what I did. Now we could just about see the exit to the base we had literally minutes to spare when all of a sudden I got pulled over.  I was so pissed!  When the cop came to the care I was already on 10 and had much attitude.  When he asked me did I know why I was pulled over I told him it was because he wasn’t fast enough to catch the care in front of me. I started complaining how he was holding up my brother from getting back to his base on time and that this was a waste of time and that he should have been trying to catch the lead car. (That statement was not necessary) I reached over in my glove compartment snatched out my insurance, registration and ID gave it to him with an attitude, rolled my eyes and turned my head on him as I keep talking about how stupid he was being. The whole time my brother was in the passenger seat saying oh my God we’re going to get killed or go to jail. Luckily either this guy was nervous or something because he didn’t even run any of my information he just looked it over gave me back my information and told me to slow down.

Now we have seen the things that have happened before people end up killed by police or beaten. I can honestly say that if that had happened to me that day, it would have been my fault. I can say my parents brought me up with the words that you can bring trouble on yourself.  That’s what would have happened to me. I wasn’t just lucky that day I was blessed.

Now I believe white people get the same treatment we do. If you don’t believe me watch Jail, Cop, Dumbest Criminals and these there shows.  I just don’t think it gets the same attention when it happens to someone white, but I hate to be the one to tell you. It happens to every race in this country.

I understand people want to change. How about we try to change for everybody though? Lets not make this a race thing lets make this a people thing because I promise everyone is going through it.  I’m quite sure other races have just as many stories as we do.

I you don’t know the story of Danroy “DJ” Henry, look it up and see how his family is handling things. You’ve probably never end heard the name because he parents didn’t make it an issue about a white office shooting a black kid.

Now I’m not saying that we should roll over and let these things continue to happen but how about up a dialogue and get this to where then need to be. Martin Luther King, Jr. and he never raised hand or rioted and looted our own things “to prove a point”.  I said this yesterday on my Facebook page and I’m going to say it again “Start looking at the man in mirror and change his way”.

As you know I believe in Jesus and God wholeheartedly so in a way something had to happen to spark change, and now we as people have to find a to fix.

I have a police officer as a friend and he has already told me what to do when if I’m ever pulled over. I’m glad to have him.

We should also teach or  children not be afraid of anyone.  Lets make sure yes ma’am and no sir is in their vocabulary. Lets teach them that although people look at it and make assumption, the only thing that should be different is skin tone other than that we are all equals in this world. Nothing can hold you back but you.

I’m going to tell you one last story… In May of this year my husband couldn’t stop in time at a red light and hit a very elderly couple, I mean the man had on sweatpants with suspenders old… but anyone because he handled the situation so well and didn’t catch an attitude or anything else that would have mad him an “Angry Black Man” it impressed the elderly couple so much that was amazing, because they probably had bad thoughts in the beginning. His attitude changed the whole situation. The couple sent him a thank you card and have called to check on him a time or two and have invited us to dinner if we are ever near their area.

So not everyone is bad and every nation is this world has a group of people that are trouble makers.

I truly understand that this police brutality is getting out of hand but is it because we have the internet we now hear about it? I want change but we have to go about change the right way so that to can be a lasting change.

I swear and I know it can happen.

Peace and Love.

Deidre

Okay by the title of this post I’m quite sure you know who I’m talking about. Yes this is a post about Bill Cosby and the scandal that is surrounding him.

Let me be the first to say I don’t condone nor do I agree with the things he has admitted to doing. They were awful and the women he did hurt have probably never been the same.

Even thought I may not understand why it took them so long to come out with the accusations it was their story to tell.

But the topic of this post is do we erase everything Bill Cosby has ever done because of mistakes he has made?  There are so many celebrities that have commented crimes and we still applaud.

Example #1: Roman Polanski in 1977 he was arrested for the sexual assault of a 13 year old, I’m not going to go into too many details but he eventually fled the country and hasn’t stepped foot back in the US because he will be immediately arrested, but yet he is an Academy Award winner director… The Academy Awards which are given out in the US.  I bet they didn’t care about what he had done….

Example #2: Robert Downey Jr Drugs, Drugs and more Drugs really nothing else to really be said. He was a mess and now he’s the most loved man in Hollywood.

I just wanted to give you a few names to give you an idea of what I’m trying to say.  These men made terrible mistakes… even Halle Berry hit someone with her car while drunk driving.  But for all the good that they are doing now and were doing then does that overshadow the positive things they have done?

Bill Cosby made some comments a few years back that made Black People turn on him. I agree with everything he said. I feel as though he held a mirror up and we didn’t like what we saw. Bill Cosby has given his time and money to charities and helped a lot of people. Do you remember when Lisa Bonet got pregnant? Instead of writing her off he gave her own show and when that didn’t work after she had the baby he allowed her to return to “The Cosby Show” and I say it like that because anyone you speak to will let you know that Bill ran that show.

So he made some very, very, very stupid mistakes he was thinking with his little head instead of his big one, maybe he has a sex addiction who knows? But let’s not write this man off because he has done a lot. Everyone makes mistakes, don’t you want to be remember for the good you did and not the bad?

Put yourself and his shoes, I know I haven’t been an angel but, I would like for everyone to remember when I helped them or made them laugh or was just there to listen to them.

Let’s remember we are human and we need to get back to loving each other in spite of our faults.

Peace and Love,

Deidre