Month: July 2015

Okay as I’m writing this I know only a few read my blog post.  If there was going to be read it would and should be this one.   I think I am the one person who is asking “what was the person doing for this situation to happen”? I’m not saying that all these people should have been killed but be honest did they or did they not put themselves in that position? It’s illegal to sell loss cigarettes (crime) If and officer tells you to stop and you run (crime) We all now talking about Sandra Bland but did she run her mouth while she was being arrested? Weren’t we all taught to keep our mouth shuts, yes this is America and we should be able to what we want but every race knows that is just simply not true.  Now for those of you that know me call  me white girl and everything else so I’ll take that but I know how things can be.

Story time: In 2005 or 2006 I was driving my brother back to his AIT base in Fort Gordon, GA.  We were running late and we were speeding he wasn’t even suppose to have left the base and we were coming all the way back from Prattville, Alabama. So like many people do they find a car going fast and get behind it, which is what I did. Now we could just about see the exit to the base we had literally minutes to spare when all of a sudden I got pulled over.  I was so pissed!  When the cop came to the care I was already on 10 and had much attitude.  When he asked me did I know why I was pulled over I told him it was because he wasn’t fast enough to catch the care in front of me. I started complaining how he was holding up my brother from getting back to his base on time and that this was a waste of time and that he should have been trying to catch the lead car. (That statement was not necessary) I reached over in my glove compartment snatched out my insurance, registration and ID gave it to him with an attitude, rolled my eyes and turned my head on him as I keep talking about how stupid he was being. The whole time my brother was in the passenger seat saying oh my God we’re going to get killed or go to jail. Luckily either this guy was nervous or something because he didn’t even run any of my information he just looked it over gave me back my information and told me to slow down.

Now we have seen the things that have happened before people end up killed by police or beaten. I can honestly say that if that had happened to me that day, it would have been my fault. I can say my parents brought me up with the words that you can bring trouble on yourself.  That’s what would have happened to me. I wasn’t just lucky that day I was blessed.

Now I believe white people get the same treatment we do. If you don’t believe me watch Jail, Cop, Dumbest Criminals and these there shows.  I just don’t think it gets the same attention when it happens to someone white, but I hate to be the one to tell you. It happens to every race in this country.

I understand people want to change. How about we try to change for everybody though? Lets not make this a race thing lets make this a people thing because I promise everyone is going through it.  I’m quite sure other races have just as many stories as we do.

I you don’t know the story of Danroy “DJ” Henry, look it up and see how his family is handling things. You’ve probably never end heard the name because he parents didn’t make it an issue about a white office shooting a black kid.

Now I’m not saying that we should roll over and let these things continue to happen but how about up a dialogue and get this to where then need to be. Martin Luther King, Jr. and he never raised hand or rioted and looted our own things “to prove a point”.  I said this yesterday on my Facebook page and I’m going to say it again “Start looking at the man in mirror and change his way”.

As you know I believe in Jesus and God wholeheartedly so in a way something had to happen to spark change, and now we as people have to find a to fix.

I have a police officer as a friend and he has already told me what to do when if I’m ever pulled over. I’m glad to have him.

We should also teach or  children not be afraid of anyone.  Lets make sure yes ma’am and no sir is in their vocabulary. Lets teach them that although people look at it and make assumption, the only thing that should be different is skin tone other than that we are all equals in this world. Nothing can hold you back but you.

I’m going to tell you one last story… In May of this year my husband couldn’t stop in time at a red light and hit a very elderly couple, I mean the man had on sweatpants with suspenders old… but anyone because he handled the situation so well and didn’t catch an attitude or anything else that would have mad him an “Angry Black Man” it impressed the elderly couple so much that was amazing, because they probably had bad thoughts in the beginning. His attitude changed the whole situation. The couple sent him a thank you card and have called to check on him a time or two and have invited us to dinner if we are ever near their area.

So not everyone is bad and every nation is this world has a group of people that are trouble makers.

I truly understand that this police brutality is getting out of hand but is it because we have the internet we now hear about it? I want change but we have to go about change the right way so that to can be a lasting change.

I swear and I know it can happen.

Peace and Love.

Deidre

Okay by the title of this post I’m quite sure you know who I’m talking about. Yes this is a post about Bill Cosby and the scandal that is surrounding him.

Let me be the first to say I don’t condone nor do I agree with the things he has admitted to doing. They were awful and the women he did hurt have probably never been the same.

Even thought I may not understand why it took them so long to come out with the accusations it was their story to tell.

But the topic of this post is do we erase everything Bill Cosby has ever done because of mistakes he has made?  There are so many celebrities that have commented crimes and we still applaud.

Example #1: Roman Polanski in 1977 he was arrested for the sexual assault of a 13 year old, I’m not going to go into too many details but he eventually fled the country and hasn’t stepped foot back in the US because he will be immediately arrested, but yet he is an Academy Award winner director… The Academy Awards which are given out in the US.  I bet they didn’t care about what he had done….

Example #2: Robert Downey Jr Drugs, Drugs and more Drugs really nothing else to really be said. He was a mess and now he’s the most loved man in Hollywood.

I just wanted to give you a few names to give you an idea of what I’m trying to say.  These men made terrible mistakes… even Halle Berry hit someone with her car while drunk driving.  But for all the good that they are doing now and were doing then does that overshadow the positive things they have done?

Bill Cosby made some comments a few years back that made Black People turn on him. I agree with everything he said. I feel as though he held a mirror up and we didn’t like what we saw. Bill Cosby has given his time and money to charities and helped a lot of people. Do you remember when Lisa Bonet got pregnant? Instead of writing her off he gave her own show and when that didn’t work after she had the baby he allowed her to return to “The Cosby Show” and I say it like that because anyone you speak to will let you know that Bill ran that show.

So he made some very, very, very stupid mistakes he was thinking with his little head instead of his big one, maybe he has a sex addiction who knows? But let’s not write this man off because he has done a lot. Everyone makes mistakes, don’t you want to be remember for the good you did and not the bad?

Put yourself and his shoes, I know I haven’t been an angel but, I would like for everyone to remember when I helped them or made them laugh or was just there to listen to them.

Let’s remember we are human and we need to get back to loving each other in spite of our faults.

Peace and Love,

Deidre

Yeah! Two post in one night!!

Anyway I swear this confederate flag thing came out of no where.

I may not have always lived in Alabama but I was brought up very open parents so nothing was new to me and they made sure I had an open mind about everything.

When I was going to high school there were plenty of buys in their big pick up truck with confederate flags in the back windows.  I never once got the vibe or feeling that it was anything more than a decoration in their truck.

In my opinion the Confederate flag is not about people still believing in slavery.  First of all I’m quite sure some black people can actually carry the Confederate flag because they did fight for the South in the Civil War, the ancestors of these people should be proud of that.

If others think that the Confederate flag is about slavery then that is totally your opinion. My opinion is that people were may not have agreed with the war but they were proud of their ancestors that answered the call to fight for the South.

I saw a video of some young black juveniles jumping out of cars and tearing a Confederate flag down from the front of someones house… If they had have gotten shot, there would have been an outrage but come one people. We have lived with this flag for centuries and the FLAG has never killed anyone.

FYI: They are actually thinking of changing the Alabama State flag because it resembles the Confederate flag.  That is just plan dumb because seriously does it bother you that much?

Don’t judge people because of what they do or like. Let’s learn to be good humans to other humans.

Peace and Love,

Deidre

They saying goes “one bad apple doesn’t spoil the bunch”… well it may not spoil the bunch but it does put a damper on things.

This weekend someone posted on Facebook that they were going to shoot up the Riverwalk in our town.  I thought it was just talk until I found it actually happened.

Montgomery has worked hard to make downtown a nice place and to invite more businesses in. The history in the Montgomery area is astonishing and it deserves to be seen and heard.

They even built a huge outside Amphitheater so that we can attract musical acts and maybe get know for the place to through concerts.  We already have the talent and this will just really put us on the map.

Because of one/group of people wanting to be stupid all of that can come crashing down.

My idea of how to fix it is very simple: STOP BEING STUPID.

What happened to a good old fashioned fist fight? Or as shocking as this may be walking away?  If we keep going down the path we are on now. No one will have anything.

Peace and Love.

Deidre

While everyone has been out celebrating the 4th of July I was getting used to being back at home after spending an entire 7 days in the hospital.

It was nothing like I expected. For one the surgery I had (a myomectomy) wasn’t the first one I’ve had but the first I’ve had in this country, so I really didn’t know what to expect.  I must say I really like the hospitals in the states…:).  The one thing that made me feel that I was in good hands was before the surgery as I sat in my pre-opt room, the doctor came and said before we started doing anything he want to pray over everything we were doing.  I immediately felt better and I since I believe God gives our doctors the sense to use in all of our different situations, I was glad God was their in the room.

So now I’m home after spending almost an entire 7 days in the hospital.  I’m glad to be home. I had gotten away from my anxiety medication although I did use it a few time in the hospital but not everyday and I was sleeping somewhat without sleeping pills.

I hope this is a turn in the battle for my health because I was already getting one the work out track. This is one of the things that needed to be done but just wouldn’t be done until it was absolutely necessary. In my case when the pain came.

I’m doing better just trying to get my energy back up and focus on me getting better and learning from my past.  I have to be a good girl and not try to move so fast and let my body heal. I have to keep strong with this remember that this was done for my better good.  I believe that and I’m holding on to that because as you all may know I can be a scatter brain.

So I’m just going to take on projects to improve my home and settle into that so that I can allow myself to heal without putting too much on myself.

I’m also learning that I’m married and although true enough I can do it for myself… sometimes letting your significant other take care of you is the most important thing you can do for a relationship. I hope I’m learning and I will always remember to do what is right in my relationships.

But I am doing well, mending although I’m deeply concerned about my mental health the jury is still out on that one.

Peace and Love

Deide