Category: Living Life

Happy New Years Eve!!

by deidreswain, posted in 2018, Goals, Inspiration, Living Life, My Goals, Uncategorized

Can you believe that tomorrow is the first day of 2018? I mean this year has flown by and another year is upon us already. Are you ready?

I try not to be too preachy in my blog post but this time I’m sorry I can’t help it. This morning in Church the message was all about making your first steps into a New Year, and I’m not talking about making resolutions but about having a clear vision of who you want to be. I have never heard it put that way. The crazy thing is I had already been thinking about what goals and visions I had for the new year. Hearing about it confirmed my thinking on the whole matter. Sometimes we get caught up in what I can do for God that is pleasing to him when it’s really what can God do through me…

We should all have a vision for our lives, lack of vision is death. We can’t just aimlessly go through life hoping that the things we dream of will fall into our laps. We have to work hard for them. We have to know how we are going to achieve our visions. We don’t need to think about the difficulties in achieving our visions, we don’t to live in fear about them or listen to those who try and tell us that we can’t achieve what we set out to do. Vision is a very powerful thing. Walt Disney said “If you can dream it, you can do it”.

So for 2018 I am dreaming big. I am going to put all the fear that I have behind because I am scared of a lot of things. I’ve let a lot of that fear hold me back from a lot of things. I have a dream to sing in public without worrying about what everyone is thinking of me, I want to use all of my artistic talents to become a premier t-shirt designer. I want to have a charity where I make homemade cards for nursing homes so that the elderly never feel forgotten on their birthdays or other special occasions. I want to make my youtube channel popular because I want people to see a very imperfect person try to get life right the best that they can.

So I have vision and as the days go by, I’m going to make it clearer on what I’m going to do and how I’m going to do it. I know I can do more that I think I can and more than I can ever imagine. I want to finally live a life full of moments pleasing God and being more stress free. I want to show more love to the people around me and just become a better me.

I hope you have at least thought about what you want out of 2018. Not resolutions but what you want out of it. If you have, go for it. Don’t let anything stop you because it is possible. I wish you all the blessings in the world. I hope everyone has a safe and Happy New Year and I will see you in 2018. Don’t forget to start checking out my Youtube channel!

Peace and Love,

Deidre

 

Christmas Eve

by deidreswain, posted in 2017, Living Life, Uncategorized

I didn’t have the Christmas Spirit this year. I was literally over it. But today I went to church and my whole attitude changed. Sometimes when we live in a world where we are so consumed by how we think things should be and forget that the world isn’t perfect, we tend to lose sight of the important things in life. I’m glad my attitude towards the day changed because I started enjoying the reason for the season so much more. I hope you all had a beautiful Christmas Eve and Christmas day.

Love and Kisses,

Deidre

At Home Microdermabrasion

by deidreswain, posted in Beauty, Living Life, Uncategorized

If you know me you know I love to get facials and massages!! They don’t always fit into my budget though so when I’m unable to get the spa, I love knowing how to care for my skin myself. Even if it seems as though you have good skin there are always thing going on that the naked eye can’t see. So cleaning and moisturizing are very important!

To get a good at home microdermabrasion treatment you only need three things:

-A Toothbrush

-Facial Cleanser

-Baking Soda

Mix facial cleanser and baking soda together and apply to face using toothbrush, once a applied give your face a good gentle scrub using the toothbrush. Make sure you pay close attention around the noise area, the toothbrush is very good for getting rid of blackheads that are normally hard to reach in this area.

When done with scrub leave on for five minutes, then rinse, use an astringent and moisturize!

That’s all there is to it!

Peace and Love,

Deidre

 

by deidreswain, posted in 2016, Living Life, Political, Uncategorized

Everyone seems to have a lot to say about this upcoming election. I see and hear so many opinions that its crazy.  The biggest question I have is do you know what any of this means?

Each and everyone has a cause or an issue that is close to us. So have you done your research on your candidate to see where they stand on the particular issue? Will it be something that is beneficial to you or will it make things worse for you?

I took it upon myself to do what I’m asking you before I made this post. I was pleasantly surprised that the information I was looking for was readily available or an email got me the information. I urge and highly suggest that you do the same. The things that you don’t think will affect you in way will. It’s the trickle down effect. You may not feel it right away but eventually it will.

So come this November put all of your complaints in a pen/pencil and vote what’s right for you. Get involved if you can. You can actually be the change you want to see. I mean did we not learn anything from Micheal Jackson? Start with the man/woman in the mirror.

Peace and Love,

Deidre

 

Late in Life….

by deidreswain, posted in 2016, Living Life, My Goals, Uncategorized

Do you think that dreams should ever die? Do you feel like there is an age on your dreams? I feel this way everyday.

My secret dream and goal is to one day really be able to sing, and don’t get me wrong I do that (trust lol!), but I want to be able to do it to the best of my ability, at the drop of a dime, with all the nervousness.

I sometimes wonder though, did I wait to late in my life to make a dream of this magnitude come true? What is the time limit on dreams? Don’t get me wrong I know that you are never to old to dream, especially when its something to better yourself, but is there ever a time when the clock should run out?

I mean lets take a look at the way some things have played out…. a 45 year old rapper finally hit the big time after being an underground artist for so long. We have a 100 year old woman running the 100 yard dash at the Penn relays (another dream of mine).  Look at Susan Boyle… I am quite sure she never thought she would get a career like the one she has. Older people are changing the way we look at how we age everyday now.

So although I’m late in life, I’m not out. I think I’m going to continue pushing myself to live my dreams.  I don’t want to ever look back on my life and think about all the things that I could have tried harder to do and didn’t. Trust me I all ready have to many regrets as it is and I don’t want to keep adding to the list!

So think about your dreams… especially the ones you think are no longer attainable. Make sure that you’re not letting anyone else put a ticking clock on what you can or cannot do. There really aren’t many things that are off limits anymore because of age.

So remember when, remember when you read this post of mine…. because one day you may be able to match it with a voice.

Peace and Love,

Deidre

Life Dreams

by deidreswain, posted in Living Life, My Goals, Uncategorized

So after doing everything I can possibly think of to do, I decided that I want to be a writer (not surprised right)? Well I have always loved reading and although I am adult have really gotten into the fantasy stories about dragons, werewolves and other magical creatures. So it wasn’t a big stretch that this would be the route that I would decide to take.

As I’m trying to put the structure of the story together I realized how far I’ve come.

I used to look back and think about all the things I wish I could change, now I look back and see all the things that I did and how far I’ve come.  I mean some of the things that I’ve done I’m not proud of, but some of these things I think wow, I can’t believe I did that. So first of all I’m finally living with no regrets and it feels AMAZING!! Lol!

I’m also learning to finally deal with disappointments in a better way. Everyday will not be all sunshine and rainbows as much as I want it to be it can’t be. If it were would never learn to appreciate them. That concept didn’t really hit me until I celebrated my 5 year wedding anniversary this year. We were sitting on the beach and things weren’t bad but of course we always want to do better but I realized everything up until that point had lead us to being able to spend a nice relaxing weekend on the beach.  Wow. Realization is a powerful thing.

I don’t know if people realize that your journey and how you handle it determines what you get out of it. You/We can handle anything and everything that comes our way. Everyone gets down, everyone WILL eventually get lose at something but, in the long run none of that matters. It’s how you pick yourself up, learn and move on that sets the pace for the chapter in your life.

So as many dreams as I’ve had, as many things as I have tried, and failed at, I will always try and go for it, try to reach it and achieve it. My “thing” is out there waiting for me just like everyone else’s. I won’t and can’t stop until it has been found.

Now go and find yours.

Peace and Love,

Deidre

Women, Women, Women and the Internet

by deidreswain, posted in Family Time, Living Life, My Christian Journey, Relationship, Uncategorized

So I’m very much what you would call a feminist.  I am all about girl power and women sticking together and I can’t stand when another woman try’s to come and take one down. Well, I had this experience last night and I’m proud to say although it hurt, I’ve been through worse, and always the only thing I get out of the experiences is stronger.  I’m so proud to say that. I so proud that who I have become, someone who takes negativity and use it to make me stronger.  The true meaning of what doesn’t kill you only makes you stronger. Adversity only strengthens my faith in God and lets me know that He has my back and won’t put anything more on my than I can bear.

 With the experience it has taught me that women actually google you to figure out who you are… don’t you understand that you can be whoever you want to be on the internet, that doesn’t mean you’ll ever know the real me?  The only way you know who I really is through this blog because this is where I don’t mind pouring out my real feelings because I never know who’s reading if it could help them in any way possible.  I hate that people feel it’s okay to try to tear others down or to throw a monkey wrench in what they have because they feel they are better suited for the job… haven’t ever heard of what for you is for you or that God doesn’t bless mess? But I digress and this isn’t going to be long because I want to leave a message to the person cyber stalking me:

What God had brought together no man or woman will destroy it. You have only made me marriage stronger.  Do yourself  a favor and learn to love yourself first and then find someone who actually loves you and only you.

Peace and Love,

Deidre

 

Dreams…

by deidreswain, posted in 2014, Living Life, My Goals, Uncategorized

I’ve had big dreams, I’ve had little dreams. I’ve never thought that any of my outlandish dreams could or would ever come true. I can’t say that they exactly have but for some reason I fee that for some reason I am in the right place in my life for something amazing to happen. I thought my best years were behind me.I thought that there was no way, I could still dream big and stay realistic. I like for my dreams to be out of this world and crazy. I don’t want to limit myself to what potential I have.  For the past few months I’ve been surrounding myself with people who dream beyond what they can see themselves do and I love that. I finally think I stood steal and waited although my life has been filled with nothing but craziness, fun, and love.  I wouldn’t trade it for the world. I’m beginning to love life on my own terms and learning that I don’t have to be prefect.  I want to say thank you to everyone who is going on this journey because it will be a roller coaster ride that we will never forget. We will leave no stone unturned. We will let everyone know we were here…

Jae, Rashunda, Jeremy, Hope, Shaquanta and everyone else who is going to go or give me new adventures I can’t wait. Thank you for being here for me. Love ya’ll

 

Peace and Much love….

 

 

Music

by deidreswain, posted in 2013 The year of Enlightenment, Living Life, My Christian Journey, Uncategorized

The other day I had written the most witty post about music and how I felt about it in conduction with my Christian faith. It was very insightful if I may say so myself. Then I forgot to push the save draft button and it disappeared.  I’m hoping that I can re-create my thoughts on the subject and still feel comes across the way I want it to.

I love music, all kinds.  Music is truly the universal language of the world.

With that being said, being a Christian I’m told that I’m only “allowed” to listen to one type of music. I just can’t accept that, and until I’m convicted or conflicted I will continue to listen to what makes me feel like me. Now don’t get me wrong I have cut out the booty music because it just doesn’t appeal to me anymore and rap has never really been my thing because it’s hard for me to keep up with anything that doesn’t have a melody that I can catch.

I like music that speaks to me, love songs, music that tells me that I’m able to do or be anything I want to be. Music that tells me where I’ve been and where I can go. Jazz, Pop, 80’s big hair bands, R&B, Oldies, Motown, some rock music and alternative music, just about anything and everything.  I love music that gives me that feel good feeling of self being and self awareness.  Music that makes me smile, music that makes me think about my husband and all the times we’ve shared good and bad. All the times that music has helped me get through the bad stuff, the times where I didn’t think I would make it.

Music is beautiful, and being trapped into listening to only one type I think is such a huge injustice.  To me it also let’s us learn about things we may not ever have any access to.

I know how important it is to be careful of what you put into your body (and yes that includes the music you listen to) I try not to listen to anything God would disapprove of.

Now people will say that God could have done all those things to help me get through all of these things, well He did do all those things.  He put that music into the artist,  writers and record labels minds to release.  Which in turn allowed me to hear it.  Can you say I’m right or wrong?

Even David wrote love songs in the Book of Psalm….

I would love to debate this and I’m open to whatever you want to throw my way.

Peace and Love,

Deidre