Don’t Forget About You

Just wanted to give everyone something to think about. I know how hard it is to love our bodies and even ourselves sometimes, but we can do it! We are all so very special and we never need to forget that.

The Video wouldn’t update late night! But Happy Thanksgiving!!

Peace and Joy,

Deidre

 

For Better of For Worse

I will admit I am an absolute brat. When I got married, I actually had the notion that those words only if anything happened to me. I’ve always been pretty sickly so I knew I would be the one having the “for worse” moments. Until two weeks ago when my husband got sick.

He is a very strong worker and always work through pain, sorrow, sickness, unfair hours, anything and everything. I’v never had to worry about him calling out of work because he had a headache or the sniffles. I fact the first day he didn’t feel well he got off went straight to the doctor and was back at work the next day. He worked the rest of the week until that Monday when things changed. He came home and he literally laid out in the floor in pain and couldn’t move. We went back to the doctor they told him they had forgot the antibiotics and gave him some Tamiflu and cough syrup. Now for anyone who has had the flu you know that within 2-3 day on tamiflu you actually began to feel better. This didn’t happen this time.

I’ve very much into essential oils and alternative ways of breaking up colds. I called my mother and all my aunts for any remedy they had that could help in this situation, nothing was working.. I knew then I had to do something I hated doing. Convince him to go back to a doctor. My husband is not a hospital or doctor person and the only reason he does his yearly checks is because I threaten to withhold sex (a woman’s best weapon). I got him to agree although he was like maybe I’ll feel better tonight and if not we can go tomorrow (I wasn’t falling for that).

So I try out local Our Med first unfortunately our insurance requires a referral from our PCP, whose office is closed on the weekend, now I’ve been to this same place before with the same policy in place, the only thing is that you call our PCP within 72 hours, they put the referral in and that’s it. Instead tonight the lady decided to dig her heels in not see us. Although like I’ve said they have done it for me on plenty of occasions. So now the only other place was the ER where our co-pay just went fro $35 to $225…..

So off the the ER we go… thankfully we aren’t sitting long and we are back in a room pretty quickly and he is taken for his check X-ray rather fast also. That was the good part. They immediately came back that he had fluid on his longs and he had pneumonia. He was devastated , I on the other hand have been down this path before so I knew the deal. He doesn’t.

But that made me think of my wedding vows “For Better of For Worse” some people think those are just words until you are in the position. As I sat in a chair next to my husband watching him be in the one place that he dislikes more than ever in the world and not being able to do anything about it. It hit me. This is what it means to be there during the worst of times, even though it may not be as worse as others have it, I am the one used to being sick not him. Our roles were reversed and it felt weird. I was taking car of someone who wouldn’t even let me ever take out the trash.

The thought process of “For Worse”, never even crosses some people minds. I know it can me a lot more but for us my husband being down is as bad as it gets around for me. Everything else I can handle seeing him down actually wants to make me want to run away because there is nothing I can do about it. I couldn’t handle it. I hate seeing someone that prides themselves on being the strongest person for everyone down. I realized then that when you say those vows you have to mean it and know that you are saying it without knowing what may come down the road. It won’t be pretty, but if you have that love in your heart then it won’t matter.

Even my though my “For Worse” made me totally understand the term “Man Baby”….. I would definitely do it again because for better or for worse, I would go to the ends of the Earth for him or with him.

Peace and Love,

Deidre Swain

So this happened…

I wrote a post last week about how I was starting a new hair journey after some events led me to become very unhappy with my hair. I ended the post with saying that I had decided not to cut my hair in order to get it back to it’s healthy state. Well that information was very wrong… I couldn’t get it back the way I wanted it.  Because of the way it had been cut in the middle it was extremely hard to style. I was so sad… so I did the one thing I said I didn’t want to do… I cut my hair.

I’m actually very pleased at how it turned out and since it was done going into the new year, it will be easy to track the progress. I am so looking forward to this hair journey. Stay tuned!!
Peace and Love,

Deidre

Blogmas Day 24 | Influenster Herbal Essences Shine Collection #Voxbox Unboxing & Review

I love a well reviewed review!

Mimosas & Marionettes

Hey guys! Welcome back to Mimosas and Marionettes!

I’m so glad you are here today! If you are new to my blog… WELCOME! Thanks for stopping by!

MERRY CHRISTMAS EVE!

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Blogmas has definitely been a challenge for me and even though I haven’t been posting every single day I am so proud of myself for putting out this much content! I had no idea I had this much to say! This is the last day of Blogmas so I had to come in and say thank you so much for following!

Today I wanted to talk to you guys about an Influenster #voxbox I received a few months back.

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My Hair….

I was so in love with my hair. So in love that I wanted to protect it and keep it all to myself so I started getting sew in’s…. constantly.

I loved how my hair would get admired as it was being taken down and put right back up. I never let it breath, get my ends clipped or anything. I just knew that I would have that pretty head of hair for forever.

In a very short time frame it all came crashing down. While getting my weave taken down my hair was mistakenly cut (this happened twice), I had thinning edges, and then something I can’t quite explain I went to bed and woke up with a bald spot! (I believe this was caused by mixing two products together to help the thinning edges but they didn’t agree with each other) I also started going through withdrawals at this after being on anxiety medication for 3 years.

So in less than 30 days all of my hair was gone, yes this happened all within a very short time period. I was heartbroken, my self-esteem took a hit… it was really bad.

So after a few days (okay weeks, I can be very vain) I got up dusted my self off and realized that I could still fix the situation.  The first thing I did was increased my water intake (I have eczema and it drys out my scalp badly) and started taking vitamins regularly (biotin and a prenatal).  Then I had to get back to doing the one thing that started this down fall in the first place. I had to start combing my hair. Laziness was the main reason for my constant use of a sew in’s in the first place (although I combed my weave more than my own hair, go figure)

Another thing I did was resist the urge to just cut it all off and either go short or natural. This may have seemed like the perfect time to do these things but, neither was a real option for me. I have a hard time taking care of longer hair, shorter hair would have been much worse! With my scalp being as dry as it is… I could not have kept up with it. Which also is the reason I can’t go natural.  I understand every one saying how easy it is but for me but curl pattern is tight. So add that with dry hair and you have constant breaking so what would be the point of going natural only for my hair to not grow?  So I continued to still get my relaxers and just work with what I have until I get back to where I know I can be.

I didn’t include any pictures on this post but I will be add some soon. I just wanted to have a say for the relaxed ladies out there who go through things and the only advice we seem to be getting these days is to “go natural”, it doesn’t work for everybody and it isn’t for everybody.

Peace and Love,

Deidre

At Home Microdermabrasion

If you know me you know I love to get facials and massages!! They don’t always fit into my budget though so when I’m unable to get the spa, I love knowing how to care for my skin myself. Even if it seems as though you have good skin there are always thing going on that the naked eye can’t see. So cleaning and moisturizing are very important!

To get a good at home microdermabrasion treatment you only need three things:

-A Toothbrush

-Facial Cleanser

-Baking Soda

Mix facial cleanser and baking soda together and apply to face using toothbrush, once a applied give your face a good gentle scrub using the toothbrush. Make sure you pay close attention around the noise area, the toothbrush is very good for getting rid of blackheads that are normally hard to reach in this area.

When done with scrub leave on for five minutes, then rinse, use an astringent and moisturize!

That’s all there is to it!

Peace and Love,

Deidre

 

What I googled today…

  • How to tape breast…
  • How to tape breast in a backless dress
  • What happens when you mix ammonia and bleach
  • How long can a person stand ammonia fumes
  • My eyes are watering and coughing after mixing ammonia and bleach.. am I going to die
  • What covers the ammonia smell
  • ER co-pays for veterans…

 

This is actually a normal day for me…