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So this happened…

I wrote a post last week about how I was starting a new hair journey after some events led me to become very unhappy with my hair. I ended the post with saying that I had decided not to cut my hair in order to get it back to it’s healthy state. Well that information was very wrong… I couldn’t get it back the way I wanted it.  Because of the way it had been cut in the middle it was extremely hard to style. I was so sad… so I did the one thing I said I didn’t want to do… I cut my hair.

I’m actually very pleased at how it turned out and since it was done going into the new year, it will be easy to track the progress. I am so looking forward to this hair journey. Stay tuned!!
Peace and Love,

Deidre

My Hair….

I was so in love with my hair. So in love that I wanted to protect it and keep it all to myself so I started getting sew in’s…. constantly.

I loved how my hair would get admired as it was being taken down and put right back up. I never let it breath, get my ends clipped or anything. I just knew that I would have that pretty head of hair for forever.

In a very short time frame it all came crashing down. While getting my weave taken down my hair was mistakenly cut (this happened twice), I had thinning edges, and then something I can’t quite explain I went to bed and woke up with a bald spot! (I believe this was caused by mixing two products together to help the thinning edges but they didn’t agree with each other) I also started going through withdrawals at this after being on anxiety medication for 3 years.

So in less than 30 days all of my hair was gone, yes this happened all within a very short time period. I was heartbroken, my self-esteem took a hit… it was really bad.

So after a few days (okay weeks, I can be very vain) I got up dusted my self off and realized that I could still fix the situation.  The first thing I did was increased my water intake (I have eczema and it drys out my scalp badly) and started taking vitamins regularly (biotin and a prenatal).  Then I had to get back to doing the one thing that started this down fall in the first place. I had to start combing my hair. Laziness was the main reason for my constant use of a sew in’s in the first place (although I combed my weave more than my own hair, go figure)

Another thing I did was resist the urge to just cut it all off and either go short or natural. This may have seemed like the perfect time to do these things but, neither was a real option for me. I have a hard time taking care of longer hair, shorter hair would have been much worse! With my scalp being as dry as it is… I could not have kept up with it. Which also is the reason I can’t go natural.  I understand every one saying how easy it is but for me but curl pattern is tight. So add that with dry hair and you have constant breaking so what would be the point of going natural only for my hair to not grow?  So I continued to still get my relaxers and just work with what I have until I get back to where I know I can be.

I didn’t include any pictures on this post but I will be add some soon. I just wanted to have a say for the relaxed ladies out there who go through things and the only advice we seem to be getting these days is to “go natural”, it doesn’t work for everybody and it isn’t for everybody.

Peace and Love,

Deidre

Sometimes it’s best….

So last week I washed my hair quickly because I had something to do. I didn’t do a good deep condition and I also blow dryer it with a hand dryer. It just didn’t come out right!! I normally wash it in the shower , deep condition it twice, and then roller wrap it. Because I didn’t do this by Tuesday it was so oily and limp that it was just ridiculous. So today I’m going to wash it and take care of it the way my hair has obviously became accustomed to. So this proves two points..

1) Sometimes it’s best to stick with what you are used to.

2) When you do something different you get different results. (One of my personal mottos)

Hair

I love my hair! I love when it has a fresh relaxer, I love when it needs one. I just love my hair in every form and fashion. My goal right now is to get down to my bra strap in the middle of my back. I’ve decided to document my hair growth journey… All the good, the bad and the ugly! So stay tuned!!

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