Category: Relationship

Women, Women, Women and the Internet

by deidreswain, posted in Family Time, Living Life, My Christian Journey, Relationship, Uncategorized

So I’m very much what you would call a feminist.  I am all about girl power and women sticking together and I can’t stand when another woman try’s to come and take one down. Well, I had this experience last night and I’m proud to say although it hurt, I’ve been through worse, and always the only thing I get out of the experiences is stronger.  I’m so proud to say that. I so proud that who I have become, someone who takes negativity and use it to make me stronger.  The true meaning of what doesn’t kill you only makes you stronger. Adversity only strengthens my faith in God and lets me know that He has my back and won’t put anything more on my than I can bear.

 With the experience it has taught me that women actually google you to figure out who you are… don’t you understand that you can be whoever you want to be on the internet, that doesn’t mean you’ll ever know the real me?  The only way you know who I really is through this blog because this is where I don’t mind pouring out my real feelings because I never know who’s reading if it could help them in any way possible.  I hate that people feel it’s okay to try to tear others down or to throw a monkey wrench in what they have because they feel they are better suited for the job… haven’t ever heard of what for you is for you or that God doesn’t bless mess? But I digress and this isn’t going to be long because I want to leave a message to the person cyber stalking me:

What God had brought together no man or woman will destroy it. You have only made me marriage stronger.  Do yourself  a favor and learn to love yourself first and then find someone who actually loves you and only you.

Peace and Love,

Deidre

 

Love

by deidreswain, posted in My Christian Journey, Relationship

I don’t really talk much about my relationship.

It’s because I’m so in love that I quite put it into words. My husband is the most wonderful man I have ever known. I truly love him.

So who’s rib was I made from? I’ve been married before and I’ve been in other relationships before. So with that being said who was the one I was meant to be connected to?

I realize how differently my relationship is so different from other relationships that I see and I always wonder is mine good different or bad different?

Since our relationship started with us being together 24/7, we rarely do anything without the other. My husband opens doors for me all the time, I mean all the time. I don’t take out trash, do any yard work, my car is always washed and most importantly he tries to understand my emotional needs. (You know as women we are very complex).

My life with my husband is beautiful, and spiritual. Of course we have disagreements like any other couple but we try to not let it go on too long.(I get mad extremely). He is so easy going with a real easy going nature, while I’m going through the house yelling at the top of my lungs. (That’s me and I’m working on it)

I’m in love, but it makes me wonder am I his rib? Did I pick the wrong husband the first time and then God stepped in and pointed me in the direction that I should go in?

I believe so because we are equally yoked, which is the most important thing. The one for us is out there unless God designed it for us to be alone for His glory (or because you have issues and can’t keep a man.

There is nothing wrong with love, but not only are we suppose to have unconditional love for those closes to us but also to one another. Love actually makes the world go round (I know it also makes some people crazy). Love is what God wants us to show each other. We love saying it but do we actually mean it?

I believe we should start learning in loving each other more than ever know. The world today is filled with such hate and turmoil that this is the only thing that we can do to fix ii.

So love one another.

Peace and Love,
Deidre

Love & Marriage

by deidreswain, posted in Family Time, My Christian Journey, Relationship

I couldn’t find a title to this post. Because the ideas are so jumble in my head but I’m going to try my best to write a good post without rambling 🙂

As I mentioned in an earlier post I am reading a book about building a lasting marriage. So the book is broken up into chapters about different couples in the Bible, the things they went through, and what we can learn from them.

So I’m reading about Abraham and Sarah. They are describe as Partners in Faith.  Imagine my surprise when I read that they went against Gods word!! I know, I know and as you can tell I am no Bible scholar. I actual thought that everything that the Bible speaks about is what God wanted people to do. The thought never entered my mind that even then people still had their free will to choose what they wanted to do.

In case you don’t know the story of Abraham and Sarah (Abram and Sarai before God changed their names) are the only couple in the Bible who are given the biggest focus. Their story spans 13 chapters!!

Abraham and Sarah were given commands by God some they listened to and others they didn’t.  See even back then people didn’t always have faith that God would do everything He promised to do. (Hence the reason Sarah persuaded her maid to have a baby with her husband).

When I read about this it really struck a cord with me. How many times has my husband told me he would take care of something just for me to go behind him and do it myself? How many times have I prayed to God for something and instead of waiting on the answer took it upon myself and even convinced myself that if it worked out that it’s what God wanted?

Even though they didn’t always follow the path that God had set before them, in the end He delivered everything that He promised He would do.  Nothing but trouble came from the decision Sarah made to have her husband have a baby with Hagar. (The birth of Ishmael is the cause of the ongoing conflict between the Arabs and Jews to this day).

I say all this to make a couple of points:

  • Our way isn’t the always the best way.
  • God has a plan for our lives. Trust Him.
  • It’s okay to not know what to do.
  • Never ever let your husband have a baby with your maid!! (LOL)

But women learn to trust your husbands (if he is a Godly man) if he loves you and cares, he will never steer you in the wrong direction. Believe that as the head of your household God gives him all that the family needs to make it through.

Happy Anniversary to Me!!

by deidreswain, posted in My Christian Journey, Relationship

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So March 19, was my two year wedding anniversary.  I married such an amazing man, that I know that it was truly God who sent him into my life.

So that brings me to tonights topic. Divorce.

Some people say that regardless of what you should never divorce, because what God has joined together no man/woman separate.  But what if God isn’t in the relationship at all? What if this was something that you wanted even if you know that it wasn’t a good idea?

God has to be in a relationship for it to work. Point blank period. That’s the only way that no man/woman can separate what God has joined together.

Marriage

by deidreswain, posted in Relationship, Uncategorized

This isn’t my first marriage. No secret there.  I refuse to allow my current marriage to end like my first one or to end at all for that matter.

We have both taken a very important step in our life and we did it together, we both got saved together.  It was so beautiful and such a positive turning point in our marriage.  The only negative I have to say is that it makes it really hard to fight with him!! He always says “Deidre, we are better than this”!… I know he’s right but when i’m mad that’s the last thing I want to hear!!

I am currently reading a book about building a a lasting, loving marriage together with Christ. I’m hoping that through this my relationship with God will become stronger and that my relationship with my loving husband will grow even deeper.

I’m enjoying very much what I’m reading and what I have been learning.

Just my thoughts….