I was so in love with my hair. So in love that I wanted to protect it and keep it all to myself so I started getting sew in’s…. constantly.
I loved how my hair would get admired as it was being taken down and put right back up. I never let it breath, get my ends clipped or anything. I just knew that I would have that pretty head of hair for forever.
In a very short time frame it all came crashing down. While getting my weave taken down my hair was mistakenly cut (this happened twice), I had thinning edges, and then something I can’t quite explain I went to bed and woke up with a bald spot! (I believe this was caused by mixing two products together to help the thinning edges but they didn’t agree with each other) I also started going through withdrawals at this after being on anxiety medication for 3 years.
So in less than 30 days all of my hair was gone, yes this happened all within a very short time period. I was heartbroken, my self-esteem took a hit… it was really bad.
So after a few days (okay weeks, I can be very vain) I got up dusted my self off and realized that I could still fix the situation. The first thing I did was increased my water intake (I have eczema and it drys out my scalp badly) and started taking vitamins regularly (biotin and a prenatal). Then I had to get back to doing the one thing that started this down fall in the first place. I had to start combing my hair. Laziness was the main reason for my constant use of a sew in’s in the first place (although I combed my weave more than my own hair, go figure)
Another thing I did was resist the urge to just cut it all off and either go short or natural. This may have seemed like the perfect time to do these things but, neither was a real option for me. I have a hard time taking care of longer hair, shorter hair would have been much worse! With my scalp being as dry as it is… I could not have kept up with it. Which also is the reason I can’t go natural. I understand every one saying how easy it is but for me but curl pattern is tight. So add that with dry hair and you have constant breaking so what would be the point of going natural only for my hair to not grow? So I continued to still get my relaxers and just work with what I have until I get back to where I know I can be.
I didn’t include any pictures on this post but I will be add some soon. I just wanted to have a say for the relaxed ladies out there who go through things and the only advice we seem to be getting these days is to “go natural”, it doesn’t work for everybody and it isn’t for everybody.
Peace and Love,
Deidre
Living and loving in Utopia.... 