Category: 2016

So this happened…

by deidreswain, posted in 2016, Beauty, My crown and glory, my hair, My Goals, Uncategorized

I wrote a post last week about how I was starting a new hair journey after some events led me to become very unhappy with my hair. I ended the post with saying that I had decided not to cut my hair in order to get it back to it’s healthy state. Well that information was very wrong… I couldn’t get it back the way I wanted it.  Because of the way it had been cut in the middle it was extremely hard to style. I was so sad… so I did the one thing I said I didn’t want to do… I cut my hair.

I’m actually very pleased at how it turned out and since it was done going into the new year, it will be easy to track the progress. I am so looking forward to this hair journey. Stay tuned!!
Peace and Love,

Deidre

My Hair….

by deidreswain, posted in 2016, Beauty, My crown and glory, my hair, Uncategorized

I was so in love with my hair. So in love that I wanted to protect it and keep it all to myself so I started getting sew in’s…. constantly.

I loved how my hair would get admired as it was being taken down and put right back up. I never let it breath, get my ends clipped or anything. I just knew that I would have that pretty head of hair for forever.

In a very short time frame it all came crashing down. While getting my weave taken down my hair was mistakenly cut (this happened twice), I had thinning edges, and then something I can’t quite explain I went to bed and woke up with a bald spot! (I believe this was caused by mixing two products together to help the thinning edges but they didn’t agree with each other) I also started going through withdrawals at this after being on anxiety medication for 3 years.

So in less than 30 days all of my hair was gone, yes this happened all within a very short time period. I was heartbroken, my self-esteem took a hit… it was really bad.

So after a few days (okay weeks, I can be very vain) I got up dusted my self off and realized that I could still fix the situation.  The first thing I did was increased my water intake (I have eczema and it drys out my scalp badly) and started taking vitamins regularly (biotin and a prenatal).  Then I had to get back to doing the one thing that started this down fall in the first place. I had to start combing my hair. Laziness was the main reason for my constant use of a sew in’s in the first place (although I combed my weave more than my own hair, go figure)

Another thing I did was resist the urge to just cut it all off and either go short or natural. This may have seemed like the perfect time to do these things but, neither was a real option for me. I have a hard time taking care of longer hair, shorter hair would have been much worse! With my scalp being as dry as it is… I could not have kept up with it. Which also is the reason I can’t go natural.  I understand every one saying how easy it is but for me but curl pattern is tight. So add that with dry hair and you have constant breaking so what would be the point of going natural only for my hair to not grow?  So I continued to still get my relaxers and just work with what I have until I get back to where I know I can be.

I didn’t include any pictures on this post but I will be add some soon. I just wanted to have a say for the relaxed ladies out there who go through things and the only advice we seem to be getting these days is to “go natural”, it doesn’t work for everybody and it isn’t for everybody.

Peace and Love,

Deidre

by deidreswain, posted in 2016, Living Life, Political, Uncategorized

Everyone seems to have a lot to say about this upcoming election. I see and hear so many opinions that its crazy.  The biggest question I have is do you know what any of this means?

Each and everyone has a cause or an issue that is close to us. So have you done your research on your candidate to see where they stand on the particular issue? Will it be something that is beneficial to you or will it make things worse for you?

I took it upon myself to do what I’m asking you before I made this post. I was pleasantly surprised that the information I was looking for was readily available or an email got me the information. I urge and highly suggest that you do the same. The things that you don’t think will affect you in way will. It’s the trickle down effect. You may not feel it right away but eventually it will.

So come this November put all of your complaints in a pen/pencil and vote what’s right for you. Get involved if you can. You can actually be the change you want to see. I mean did we not learn anything from Micheal Jackson? Start with the man/woman in the mirror.

Peace and Love,

Deidre

 

Late in Life….

by deidreswain, posted in 2016, Living Life, My Goals, Uncategorized

Do you think that dreams should ever die? Do you feel like there is an age on your dreams? I feel this way everyday.

My secret dream and goal is to one day really be able to sing, and don’t get me wrong I do that (trust lol!), but I want to be able to do it to the best of my ability, at the drop of a dime, with all the nervousness.

I sometimes wonder though, did I wait to late in my life to make a dream of this magnitude come true? What is the time limit on dreams? Don’t get me wrong I know that you are never to old to dream, especially when its something to better yourself, but is there ever a time when the clock should run out?

I mean lets take a look at the way some things have played out…. a 45 year old rapper finally hit the big time after being an underground artist for so long. We have a 100 year old woman running the 100 yard dash at the Penn relays (another dream of mine).  Look at Susan Boyle… I am quite sure she never thought she would get a career like the one she has. Older people are changing the way we look at how we age everyday now.

So although I’m late in life, I’m not out. I think I’m going to continue pushing myself to live my dreams.  I don’t want to ever look back on my life and think about all the things that I could have tried harder to do and didn’t. Trust me I all ready have to many regrets as it is and I don’t want to keep adding to the list!

So think about your dreams… especially the ones you think are no longer attainable. Make sure that you’re not letting anyone else put a ticking clock on what you can or cannot do. There really aren’t many things that are off limits anymore because of age.

So remember when, remember when you read this post of mine…. because one day you may be able to match it with a voice.

Peace and Love,

Deidre