Archive | April 2015

TTC (Trying to Conceive)

Because my family kinda had a stalker a while back, I didn’t want to talk about this subject. (FYI Crazy chick wanted my husband).  

Well as those close to me know my husband and I are trying to conceive. 

It hasn’t quite been a year yet and there was a break for a while of actual “trying”.  

I wasn’t ovulating… why? I couldn’t honestly tell you because I have been pregnant before, in fact I got pregnant easily… first time I ever tried.

So what makes this time so different?

I have asked myself that question a million times and because I know myself I know that I’m the type of person to hold on to things for a long time. I let things that should and can be forgiven get to me, I let things that have no value or real affect on me shape my life.

My sweet baby boy CJ died April 5, 2007.  Worst day of my life, I would trade places with him in a heartbeat and I still feel that way even til this very day.

That day I think I shut down everything in my body that could possibly baby related. Before ex-husband asked me to have children, I had always said I didn’t want kids. Right after I lost CJ I went right back into that mode. No children for me.

Then as life normally does, a curve ball was thrown at me.

I got divorced, met a new guy, got re-married and because there was a sweet 4 year old little boy in the picture I thought I had hit the jackpot and everything was complete.  I was not prepared in any way for feelings of wanting my own child.

Why would I want that? My pregnancy with CJ was HORRIBLE! I was so sick, in the ER every other week it was a mess.  So why would I want to go remotely tempt the scales of fate and go through that again?

We have all heard of the biological clock and I thought I had broke mine because I was happy without being a full time mommy.  I love sharing my mommy duties, with an incredible woman that is my sons mother.

So this change of heart came out of no where for me. Even when my husband and I were getting the questions; So when are you guys going to have a little one of your own? We would just laugh off the question and try and direct the conversation elsewhere.  

Then one day I turned to my husband and asked him honestly, “Do you really want another kid”? To which he replied (as only a man can) “I would never take that option away from you, so it’s whatever you want”, well to me that wasn’t much of an answer so over a few months we had the baby conversation plenty of times. I wanted a straight answer or maybe I just wanted to hear what my heart was already beginning to tell me.

So one day it comes out, he has always wanted a little girl and that he would love to have one with me, even without knowing how much of our lives it will change. (We are childless every other weekend which means sleeping in and late nights, not having food in the refrigerator and sometimes parties that last until sunup).

So then begins the TTC journey, and so far it totally sucks.  I know I’m older but should it really be this hard?  I swear the towel is sitting beside me waiting to be thrown in because I just about give up.  I have no patience for the “it will happen on day” speech I get time and time again.  

I can’t seem to throw it in just yet. Stupid faith. My faith is telling me that I haven’t given God the time that He needs to make the situation the way He wants it before He gives the blessing which I pray for, because I have had some great teachers of Gods word over the years, I know:

  • He does things in His own time
  • He doesn’t put in any situation you can’t handle
  • He bleeses those who put their faith in Him

So because I know these things. I have to do the one thing I am not known to have. Patience. My downfall every single time. I think I have said this in an earlier blog but I am definetly one of those make things happen type of person.  I go strong and hard. So trust not being able to look down at myself and say get pregnant and it actually works kills me. (yes I have talked to my body about it failure to do as I tell it to).

Maybe my day will come when I finally say “I’m pregnant”! Maybe it won’t. My so sweet and loving husband said “hey it’s going to happen, just not on our time. I could be 50 and it could happen then!” Although I did give him a long and hard side eye.  What he said makes perfect sense. I can’t control wait was is or isn’t meant for me. So for  now I will try and be patient. I will continue doing whatever it is the doctor says I need to do to help and I will continue to wait for my blessing from God.  I can’t say I will always be happy about it and that I won’t have horribly depressing days like I had today but when thing are put in prespective for you, your mindset has no other choice but to change.

Peace and Love,

Deidre

Motivation

I have so many ideas in my head

So many things that I wish to accomplish

So much that I know I can do and I know that I am pefectly capable of doing.

Motivation is my worst enemy though because sometimes for me it’s no where to be found.  

I saw the hard work of someone who put three years of their life into something they truly believed in and it turned out beautifully.

So why can’t I push myself to do the same? Why do I keep coming up with these great ideas and never really push to make them come true? Is this motivation thing something I really need to find first? Before I let all of ideas out?

The biggest thing in my life is to leave my footprint somewhere. Not my carbon footprint. But my footprint that says I did something in life to better this world after I leave.

So I’m going to start praying and praying hard so that my motivation comes, my time comes and that I am strong enough to push myself to do what it is that I am capable and know what I am put here for. 

My purpose.

But what is purpose without motivation. I have to find both and you can’t do one without the other. This is what it’s going to take to make it.

Don’t let motivation take you out of the game, even before the game starts. I’m going to make my list and I can’t wait to start checking them off as they are accomplished. 

I’m going to find my motivation, are you?

Peace and Love,

Deidre

When life gives you lemons, run!!

I’ve always wanted a house.

My dream house came my way when I least expected it.  Moving from an apartment into a house was amazing and I instantly fell in love with my house! It had everything that I wanted and then some….

That was until you start having house problems.  Now everyone who has a house knows exactly what I’m talking about. Air condition problems, dead trees, broken appliances, and everything else you can think of.

It is driving me crazy! I mean as I am typing this I am waiting for an after hours air conditioner service to come and check out my air conditioner which has went out.

Sometimes everything is going great and then sometimes everything is going wrong.

The same thing happened last year right before we had a big party (we are having one in a few weeks) so these are the things that life is made up of.

Everything that’s worth having is worth working for. Everything worth having is worth working hard to keep.

Although I believe life has ups and down I still run when life hands me lemons.  I’ll fix it when I actually make the lemonade until then I will be running! 🙂

Peace and Love,

Deidre

Don’t ever stop living

They say that you should never give up on life and always keep trying.

I was thinking about that saying today and I decided that it should be better never stop living.

You only get one life (well according to my religion) and you should live that life to the best of your abilities.

Now I know I’m a fine one to talk because I will go from 100 miles per hour to 0 in a heartbeat but, when the need arises I’m going to live my life because I want no regrets when its all over.

I want to go hard and make all my dream, wishes and everything else come true.  Does anyone else have that feeling inside of them that there is something bigger than themselves that is trying to claw its way out of you?  I feel that way all the time, I watch the news, tv shows, movies, books and I’m always thinking of how it could have been done better.  If that’s my way of thinking then “If you want something done right, then do it yourself.”

We are in the time where people are becoming famous for hair weave reviews and makeup.  Making their own shows on YouTube are making people bonafide stars.

There is nothing that can’t be done if you honestly put your mind to it these days.

A few weeks ago Dame Dash said that everyone should be an owner. Everyone should be “in charge”  well even the Bible says that there will be bosses and their will be workers. There has to be rich and their has to be poor.  It’s the way the world works. So note *NOT EVERYONE CAN BE A BOSS*.  But you can have ideas that you can pass on to others and still make some type of impact on the world even if you are just worker. You still have some importance.

So continue to dream no matter where you are in life, never give up. Don’t ever stop living.

Peace and Love,

Deidre

Music for the day

Rainy days and Mondays by the Carpenters…., that song always does the trick was like it was today, but I got to spend time with my loving husband. What can be better than staying in bed and watching tv with my hubby. Love is so beautiful and I am so lucky to be the wife of such a wonderful man. Mistakes can be made but love really does conquer all. Something bigger than we can ever imagine is what we want out of life so we just keep praying and waiting but we know that our time will come.

Peace and Love,

Deidre

From where we came from to where we are now

I like to reflect, ALOT.  I think it’s good to always know where you came from to where you are now.  It keeps you humble and shows you 1 of two things: the work you still need to do or what you have accomplished.

So much has changed in the last 20 years or so. I’m in my early thirties and growing up it was go to college, get a good job, get married and start a family. Trust I quickly learned I was not that person.

I like to beat my own drum, my own way.

In the past few years we have seen so many zero to hero stories that it is mind boggling why anyone can’t see that the world is theirs for the taking.

There have be people who started all sorts of companies selling goods and services, and I’m quite sure this is not what they told they could be or how it was even possible.

I think anything is possible.  For a moment look at the people around you. I know you wonder how some of them made it.  I wonder how I’ve made it with such  a happy go luck outlook on life.

I mean if you want something bad enough you will keep fighting for it not matter how many times you are knocked down.  I love it. I want everyone to reach their full potential as long as you remember Karma on the way.

Dreams are meant to be followed, and while I am putting this out there I will also try to practice what I preach.  You have no idea how many ideas and thoughts I have running through my head on a daily basis.  It doesn’t scare me, I just mad at myself for not fighting harder to make these ideas com true.

I’m going to do better, I will do better. I’m young life is still at my fingertips. I’m someone special.

And I’m just getting started! So watch out I plan on doing everything I can to have no regrets when I look back.  So I look to where I came from (never thought I would be where I am not) and where I am now. It is so wonderful and I know there is much more to come.

Peace and Love,

Deidre

Life

Happy it’s all I ever wanted. Finding it within myself was hard, but I’m a fighter I wasn’t meant to break.