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Love & Marriage

I couldn’t find a title to this post. Because the ideas are so jumble in my head but I’m going to try my best to write a good post without rambling 🙂

As I mentioned in an earlier post I am reading a book about building a lasting marriage. So the book is broken up into chapters about different couples in the Bible, the things they went through, and what we can learn from them.

So I’m reading about Abraham and Sarah. They are describe as Partners in Faith.  Imagine my surprise when I read that they went against Gods word!! I know, I know and as you can tell I am no Bible scholar. I actual thought that everything that the Bible speaks about is what God wanted people to do. The thought never entered my mind that even then people still had their free will to choose what they wanted to do.

In case you don’t know the story of Abraham and Sarah (Abram and Sarai before God changed their names) are the only couple in the Bible who are given the biggest focus. Their story spans 13 chapters!!

Abraham and Sarah were given commands by God some they listened to and others they didn’t.  See even back then people didn’t always have faith that God would do everything He promised to do. (Hence the reason Sarah persuaded her maid to have a baby with her husband).

When I read about this it really struck a cord with me. How many times has my husband told me he would take care of something just for me to go behind him and do it myself? How many times have I prayed to God for something and instead of waiting on the answer took it upon myself and even convinced myself that if it worked out that it’s what God wanted?

Even though they didn’t always follow the path that God had set before them, in the end He delivered everything that He promised He would do.  Nothing but trouble came from the decision Sarah made to have her husband have a baby with Hagar. (The birth of Ishmael is the cause of the ongoing conflict between the Arabs and Jews to this day).

I say all this to make a couple of points:

  • Our way isn’t the always the best way.
  • God has a plan for our lives. Trust Him.
  • It’s okay to not know what to do.
  • Never ever let your husband have a baby with your maid!! (LOL)

But women learn to trust your husbands (if he is a Godly man) if he loves you and cares, he will never steer you in the wrong direction. Believe that as the head of your household God gives him all that the family needs to make it through.

Happy Anniversary to Me!!

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So March 19, was my two year wedding anniversary.  I married such an amazing man, that I know that it was truly God who sent him into my life.

So that brings me to tonights topic. Divorce.

Some people say that regardless of what you should never divorce, because what God has joined together no man/woman separate.  But what if God isn’t in the relationship at all? What if this was something that you wanted even if you know that it wasn’t a good idea?

God has to be in a relationship for it to work. Point blank period. That’s the only way that no man/woman can separate what God has joined together.

I found my soul mate…

I’ve always said that most people never actually end up with their soul mate. For the most part we normally settle for the closes person who fits the description of what we want in a mate. After being married for about 6 years my ex-husband and I realized that we weren’t meant to be together. There wasn’t a lot of bitterness because we both knew this but since we had no one else we just continued to be married. At this time I sat down and made a short list of what was important to me in a man (a very short list, I’m not Chili). Even though I was just getting out of a marriage, I loved being a wife and I knew that’s what wanted for myself. If I dated someone I wanted the man to know (yes I said man) to know what my intentions were.  I wanted a husband. 

I was afraid to date though. I didn’t want to go through a bunch of guys who didn’t know what they wanted or they weren’t ready to settle down.  Plus I’m sort of high maintenance so it was going to take some one extra special to deal with everything that makes up me!  I had grown up alot ,seen some things in life and knew that the usual didn’t work for me.  Luckily for me someone else was looking for that exact same thing.

My husband is my soul mate. I went around the world and back (literally), just to come back and find a country man from a small town named Childersburg.  My husband is a firm believer in if I’m not happy then he isnt either. His goals are focused on making a better life for our family and nothing more. He is man enough to stand up to peer pressure when he’s called “whipped”. I love being a wife to him, I cant start or end my day without thanking God for bringing and keeping this man I my life. We pray together, laugh together, cry together… doing anything apart is not an option for us because in our eyes that leads to the creation of space between us. We have made our dreams and goals one, so that we can always be on the same page going in the same direction.

I could go on and on about our relationship and our live for each other.  But its not necessart . Soul mates don’t have to tell the world how much they love each other we show it.  The respect we have for each other and our relationship says it all. God blessed me with my soul mate.